Sachin Sharma

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  • Healing from Trauma: Tips for Coping and Moving Forward

    Healing from Trauma: Tips for Coping and Moving Forward

    Trauma is a difficult and painful experience that can have long-lasting effects on an individual’s mental and emotional well-being. Healing from trauma is a process that takes time and can be challenging, but it is possible to move forward and lead a healthy life. Here are some tips for coping and moving forward after experiencing trauma.

    Seek professional help

    Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s emotional and mental well-being, and it’s important to have the support of a qualified professional. A therapist or counselor can help you to process and cope with your trauma, and can also provide you with tools and strategies for managing symptoms such as anxiety and depression.

    Take care of yourself physically

    Trauma can take a toll on the body, and it’s important to practice self-care and self-compassion. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in regular exercise. Taking care of your physical health can help to improve your overall well-being and can also help to reduce symptoms of trauma.

    Establish a sense of safety and control

    Trauma can make an individual feel out of control and vulnerable. Establishing a sense of safety and control can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and can also help to improve overall well-being. This can include creating a safe and comfortable environment, engaging in activities that provide a sense of accomplishment, and setting realistic goals for yourself.

    Connect with others

    Trauma can make an individual feel isolated and alone. Connecting with others can help to reduce feelings of isolation and can also provide a sense of support and understanding. This can include talking to friends and family members, joining a support group, or participating in community activities.

    Practice mindfulness and self-compassion

    Mindfulness involves being present in the moment and paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. It can help to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, and can also help to improve overall well-being. Practicing self-compassion involves being kind and understanding to yourself, even when things don’t go as planned.

    In conclusion, healing from trauma is a process that takes time and can be challenging. However, it is possible to move forward and lead a healthy life. Seeking professional help, taking care of yourself physically, establishing a sense of safety and control, connecting with others, and practicing mindfulness and self-compassion are all important steps in the healing process. Remember that healing is not a linear process, and it’s important to be patient and compassionate with yourself. It’s also important to remember that healing is possible, and that it’s never too late to seek help and begin the process of healing.

    It’s important to understand that everyone’s experience with trauma is different, and there is no right or wrong way to heal. Some individuals may find that traditional therapy works best for them, while others may prefer alternative approaches such as art therapy or yoga. What is important is that you find the approach that works best for you and that you feel comfortable with.

    It’s also important to recognize that healing from trauma is a lifelong process, and that it’s normal to have setbacks and triggers along the way. It’s important to have a support system in place and to have a plan for coping with difficult emotions and situations.

    In summary, healing from trauma takes time, but with the right support and approach, it is possible to move forward and lead a healthy life. Remember to seek professional help, take care of yourself physically, establish a sense of safety and control, connect with others, practice mindfulness and self-compassion, and be patient and compassionate with yourself. It’s important to remember that healing is possible and that you are not alone in this journey.

  • The Productivity Dilemma: Why Productive Tasks are So Damn Hard

    The Productivity Dilemma: Why Productive Tasks are So Damn Hard

    Have you ever found yourself binge-watching Netflix for hours, yet struggling to write even one sentence of an assignment? Have you ever caught yourself aimlessly scrolling through social media instead of tackling that to-do list? Why is it so much easier to get lost in the world of distraction rather than doing what we know will help us be more productive?

    The answer lies in dopamine.

    Dopamine is a type of neurotransmitter that helps control our level of excitement and interest in things. It helps us focus and work hard by making things seem more intriguing. So, the activities that we know are good for us often don’t seem interesting because they don’t give us a dopamine boost.

    But there’s hope! Here are some ways to improve your dopamine production and get more done:

    Mind Your Meals

    What we eat has a huge impact on our productivity levels. Make sure you include foods high in proteins, magnesium, and tyrosine such as dairy, fish, cheese, nuts, beans, and lentils in your diet. Avoid processed foods and limit your intake of coffee and alcohol.

    Pair a healthy diet with regular exercise and a good night’s sleep, and you’ll be unstoppable.

    Stay Away from Distractions

    Indulging in addictive activities such as gaming, social media, or watching short videos (reels) during breaks can cause a dopamine surge. This makes it even harder to get motivated for less engaging activities like reading.

    To avoid this, turn off notifications for your apps and limit your social media time to once a day for a set duration. Digital detox and meditation can also help keep your dopamine levels in check.

    Take an hour each day to just sit and be with yourself. In this quiet time, let your mind reset and recharge.

    Mix Productive Tasks with Enjoyable Ones

    If possible, listen to your favorite music while working on an assignment, or enjoy a snack you love while tackling a difficult project. This tricks your brain into thinking “this is okay” and helps you stay focused and calm.

    Avoid multitasking when you have too much on your plate. Instead, make a to-do list and work through it one task at a time. The sense of accomplishment you get from crossing each task off will keep your motivation levels high.

    Minimize distractions by putting on noise-cancelling earphones and disconnecting from the world until you’re done. This will help you work faster and more efficiently.

    Say No to Drugs

    Drugs and alcohol give us a false sense of pleasure by artificially boosting our dopamine levels. This high is temporary, and when it wears off, our dopamine levels crash, leaving us feeling down.

    Sticking to a healthy lifestyle will pay off in the long run by boosting your productivity levels. Sure, it’s okay to have fun during breaks, but keeping your mind focused and calm will help you achieve more in the end.

    A 7-Day Dopamine Detox: How It Changed My Life

    I started the year with a 7-day dopamine detox, and you can check out my experience in this video:

    In conclusion, while distractions may seem more interesting in the moment, choosing a healthy lifestyle is what will make you more productive in the long run. By keeping your mind calm and focused, you’ll achieve more and feel better too.

  • The 4 Types of Toxic People You Need to Stay Away From

    The 4 Types of Toxic People You Need to Stay Away From

    Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes and can creep into your life without you even realizing it. They can be your friends, family members, colleagues, neighbors, or even strangers on the subway. Some are easy to spot, while others are more subtle in their toxic behavior. But, the good news is, you can identify them and take action to protect yourself.

    As we step into the new year, it’s time to leave toxic people behind and make room for positivity and growth. In this article, we’ll be discussing four types of toxic people you need to stay away from and why.

    1. The Possessive Type

    These are the people who initially seem caring and concerned, but as time goes on, their true colors show. They want nothing more than to control every aspect of your life, which stems from their own insecurities. They disguise their control tactics as concern for your well-being, but deep down, they know they can’t survive without you. They try to isolate you from your loved ones and make you dependent on them.

    While co-dependence is a necessary component of a healthy relationship, it’s important to remember that you need to be in charge of your life. If someone else is making decisions for you, it’s time to show them the door.

    2. The Jealous Type

    These people appear friendly on the surface, but they won’t hesitate to bring you down behind your back. They constantly criticize you, find ways to undermine you, and make your life miserable. They often originate from a lack of confidence in their own abilities or jealousy towards your achievements.

    It’s important to keep your distance from these types of toxic people, as they can take advantage of you when you’re most vulnerable. Keep in mind that their jealousy is a reflection of their own weakness, and you don’t need them in your life.

    3. The Intrusive Type

    These toxic people can be found among friends, relatives, or even family members. They have no respect for your privacy and want to know everything about your life. They offer unwanted advice and are always in your business, even when it’s not their concern.

    To deal with these types of toxic people, you need to be firm and set clear boundaries. If you don’t, they will take advantage of your kindness and bring you down with their constant chatter and intrusion.

    4. The Competitive Type

    Life is not a race, and it’s important to remember that everyone is on their own unique path towards their own unique destination. But, being surrounded by competitive people can lead to you comparing your life to others and hinder your progress.

    In a workplace filled with competitiveness, it can be hard to focus on your own goals and be creative. It’s better to look for a supportive work environment where colleagues are more collaborative and less competitive. This will help you grow your skills and establish yourself as a valuable team player.

    In conclusion, these four types of toxic people can easily be misinterpreted as positive influences, but it’s important to recognize their toxic behavior and take action to protect yourself. As you start the new year, leave these toxic people behind and make room for positivity and growth in your life.

  • The Psychology of Procrastination: Understanding Why You Put Things Off

    The Psychology of Procrastination: Understanding Why You Put Things Off

    Have you ever found yourself putting things off, even though you know they need to get done? You’re not alone! Procrastination is a common struggle for many people, and it can be a tough habit to break. But the good news is, by understanding the psychology behind why we procrastinate, we can learn how to overcome it and get things done.

    The Roots of Procrastination

    For me, procrastination started as a lack of motivation. I would get an idea and then lose steam as I went from planning to execution. But even when I did get started on a project, I always found the execution part to be more enjoyable than the planning and preparation stages.

    This led me to start a YouTube channel, where I could share my ideas through video. I thought it would be a more engaging and efficient way to publish content. But the process of learning to shoot and edit professionally was much more time-consuming than I anticipated. This led me to start a separate YouTube channel where I could focus solely on learning to shoot and edit. Although my first attempts weren’t great, I learned a lot and was able to see how much I was already ahead of many other YouTube channels in terms of video and editing quality.

    Making Matters Worse

    The second wave of COVID-19 hit India and brought my progress to a halt. I got infected and wasn’t able to edit the video I shot in April 2021. Our upcoming guests also started to have second thoughts about shooting in the middle of the pandemic, so I took a much-needed break.

    But that break only made things worse. I think it was either a side effect of COVID or my habit of procrastination evolving, but I wasn’t re-energized. Instead, my habit of delaying and postponing things became more consistent.

    Realizing the Problem

    I then realized that my procrastination had taken over other areas of my life as well. For example, I started a blog with the intention of using it as a journal, but over time it turned into a lifestyle and news website, and eventually, an abandoned page. I felt guilty and ashamed that I had let my busy life get in the way of something I loved doing, like writing.

    Finding a Solution

    After much contemplation and self-reflection, I finally understood the root of my procrastination problem. I realized that my procrastination was like a “friend with benefits.” It was okay to have it around when I needed a break, but I was relying on it even when I should be focusing on more important things. This was turning into a guilty pleasure, and I knew it was time to end it before our relationship became toxic.

    The lesson is: it’s time to say goodbye to this “fun friend.” The guilt of being complacent was making me miserable, and it was time to focus on the things that matter. So, my dear procrastination, it’s time for us to take a break from each other. Let’s make sure our beautiful relationship doesn’t turn toxic and ruin one of us. And we both know it would be me!

  • The Quest for Happiness: A Heartfelt Letter

    The Quest for Happiness: A Heartfelt Letter

    Dear Happiness,

    Remember the times when we were young, wild and free? Those carefree days when we laughed until our stomachs ached, and the world was our playground. I want to take you down memory lane and revisit some of the happiest moments we shared together.

    Do you remember the night when we were both upset about being forced to sleep early for school? When we looked at the night bulb and said “Wow, everyone is asleep but I am still awake.” That moment made us feel like we were unstoppable. Even though we hadn’t done our homework, and we thought we would get in trouble the next day, the teacher didn’t show up. That day will always hold a special place in my heart, and I’ll never forget the joy we felt when we realized we had dodged a bullet.

    The excitement I felt playing with the strange objects I used to keep in a polybag still makes me smile. I could play with those cells, wires, batteries, and magnets for hours without getting tired. It was all thanks to you, and I still have some of those toys to this day.

    When we had to change cities and schools, we faced a lot of challenges, but you were always there with me. We made new friends, had fun and created memories that still make us laugh. And who can forget that night with our cousins, when we all danced together without a care in the world? That was a moment of pure joy, and I feel grateful to have shared it with you.

    College was a rollercoaster of emotions, but we got through it together. We found happiness in movies, computers, games, comics, and novels. And even when life got tough, you never left my side. I’ll always be grateful for the support of my family, friends, and of course, you.

    Do you remember our daily walks in Mumbai, the city that never sleeps? Those journeys on local trains and buses helped shape me into who I am today. I learned to cherish you even more during that time. I didn’t mind sacrificing sleep, or walking miles without getting tired because I was happy. And do you remember the time I met that creepy guy on the bus from Infinity Mall to Andheri Station? Although it was a strange encounter, it still brings a smile to my face.

    I also discovered that sharing you with others is a way to keep you around longer. I started talking to strangers on trains and buses and even gave pep talks to people who were going through tough times. It was a proud moment when I was able to bring positivity into someone’s life, even if it was just for a moment.

    Money may bring comfort and security, but it doesn’t bring happiness. I used to think that once I started earning a good salary, my life would be complete. But I was wrong. The happiness I felt eating a cheap Vada Pav and Limbu-paani can never be replaced by dining at fancy restaurants and eating expensive food.

    In conclusion, I want to say thank you for being there for me throughout the ups and downs of life. You have brought joy and happiness into my life, and I am forever grateful for your existence. I hope this letter takes you down memory lane and reminds you of all the amazing moments we have shared together.

    Yours always,

    Sachin

  • The Power of Self-Love: How to Be Happy Alone and Just Be Awesome!

    The Power of Self-Love: How to Be Happy Alone and Just Be Awesome!

    Have you ever felt like you were all alone and had nobody to turn to? I know I have. I used to believe that the people I thought were there for me would always be there to support me, no matter what. But when I needed them the most, they weren’t there. And that’s when I realized that the world doesn’t work like that. The people we believe will be there for us may not always be there when we need them the most.

    But that’s okay. Because sometimes, being left alone is exactly what we need. It’s a wake-up call, a reality check that shows us that we can’t rely on others to make us happy. We have to do it ourselves. And that’s where self-love comes in.

    You see, when people say they like you, they’re talking about your outer appearance. They’re not interested in the real you, your inner soul. They’re just curious about your life and what makes you tick. And that’s why we have to stop relying on others for our happiness and start relying on ourselves.

    We have to learn to differentiate between what we really need and what we’ve just convinced ourselves that we need. We have to break the habit of seeking the company of others and start living our lives on our own. And once we do that, we’ll realize that we don’t need anyone else to do what we have to do. We’re capable of doing it ourselves.

    So, let go. Embrace your solitude. And make a promise to never let yourself be vulnerable again. The only person you can truly rely on is yourself. And once you start loving yourself, others will start to find you interesting again. They’ll be drawn to your confidence and independence. But be careful, because this is the same trap that you fell into in the first place. Focus on what you want, not on what others want from you.

    The lesson that life has taught me is that being alone isn’t a bad thing. It’s actually a powerful thing. When you learn to love and be happy with yourself, you become awesome. And you don’t have to be someone else to achieve that. You just have to be yourself. So, go ahead and be awesome!

  • My Childhood Excuse That Became a Running Joke

    My Childhood Excuse That Became a Running Joke

    Growing up in 2006, my friend Vinesh (or Vinna, as we liked to call him) and I were two young and carefree teenagers who just wanted to enjoy life. Our 12th board exams were fast approaching, and we had to attend Math tuition every day to improve our weakest subject. Our ride was a daily 4 km bicycle journey from our homes to the tuition center.

    Our parents were strict, always reminding us that we had to study hard for the board exams. But for us, being stuck inside with books felt like a prison sentence. So, whenever we could, we would leave home early and return late, just to spend more time outside of the house. We lived in neighboring areas, so our daily commute was always a joint one.

    On the way back home, we would pass by a railway crossing that was often closed to vehicles due to the high frequency of trains on that route. However, being impatient young Indians, we would cross it on our bicycles without any trouble. We would even stop our bikes at the crossing and watch the trains go by, debating on their estimated speeds. Sometimes, we would wait for one or two more trains to pass, just so we could extend our discussions a little longer.

    One day, we got carried away and were so late getting back home that it was already dark. When my parents asked why I was late, I quickly came up with the first excuse that popped into my head: “The railway crossing post was closed for too long. Even between the trains, they didn’t open it. That’s why I am so late.”

    To my surprise, my parents seemed to believe me. The next day, I told Vinna about my clever excuse and how I had managed to avoid trouble. But before I could finish my story, he pointed out the obvious flaw: “We were on bicycles, you idiot. We could have crossed the post even if it had been closed for real. Why would we just wait and watch the trains?”

    I was stunned by my own stupidity and couldn’t believe that my parents hadn’t noticed the flaw in my excuse. Vinna and I laughed and laughed about my foolishness until our stomachs ached. To this day, whenever we talk about that incident, we can’t help but laugh.

    Those really were the days! A time when we were carefree, fearless, and just enjoying the ride. I will always cherish the memories of that time, and the running joke that was born from my childhood excuse.

  • The Secret to Being Happy: Why Being Selfish is a Good Thing

    The Secret to Being Happy: Why Being Selfish is a Good Thing

    We all want to be seen as nice and helpful people. We do things for others and try to be selfless. But have you ever stopped to think, why do we want to be seen as selfless? And why does it make us so happy? The truth is, there’s no such thing as being completely selfless. We do things because they make us happy or boost our self-esteem. So, why not embrace our selfish side and be happy about it?

    Sometimes we feel like we have to prove ourselves to others, and it can be a lot of pressure. But what if we didn’t have to prove anything to anyone? What if we could just be ourselves and not care about what others think? That would be pretty great, right? And when we stop trying to prove ourselves to others, we don’t have to brag about all the “selfless” things we do. We can just do them because we want to.

    When we accept that we’re just as selfish as everyone else, we can start valuing ourselves more. And when we value ourselves, we’ll make sure to take care of ourselves and make ourselves happy. And you know what? That’s okay!

    Imagine if you did something nice for someone and they thanked you. Instead of saying “it’s no big deal”, you can say “of course, I’m happy to help” because you know you did it because it made you happy. It’s a win-win situation.

    Being selfish doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It’s all about how we think about it. So, stop trying to be seen as selfless and start embracing your own happiness. It’s okay to want to feel good about yourself, and it’s okay to do things that make you happy. And remember, sometimes it’s better to say nothing at all instead of bragging about how nice you are.

    In short, being selfish is not a bad thing. It’s just a matter of perception and everyone does it. Embrace it, be happy about it and don’t brag about it. People will love you for it.