Sachin Sharma

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  • The Root Causes of Anger and How to Tackle Them

    The Root Causes of Anger and How to Tackle Them

    Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences. However, when anger becomes uncontrolled and intense, it can lead to destructive behavior and negative consequences. This is why learning to manage anger is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and personal well-being. In this article, we will explore the science of anger, how it affects our mental health, and tips for managing anger in a healthy and productive way.

    What is Anger and Why Does it Happen?

    Anger is an emotional response to perceived threats or injustice. It is a normal reaction to stress and is a way for our bodies to prepare for a fight or flight response. However, when anger becomes intense and is expressed in inappropriate ways, it can lead to negative consequences such as physical altercations, ruined relationships, and even legal trouble.

    The Causes of Anger

    Anger can be caused by a variety of factors, including personal problems, frustration, and even physical changes in the body. Some common triggers for anger include:

    • Perceived threats or injustice
    • Frustration or disappointment
    • Physical changes such as fatigue, hunger, or changes in blood sugar levels
    • Personal problems such as financial stress, relationship issues, or health problems

    The Effects of Anger on Mental Health

    When anger is expressed in unhealthy ways, it can have a negative impact on mental health. Chronic anger can lead to anxiety, depression, and even physical health problems. It can also damage relationships, causing isolation and loneliness.

    Tips for Overcoming Anger Issues

    Managing anger can be a difficult process, but it is essential for maintaining good mental health and positive relationships. Here are some tips for managing anger in a healthy way:

    • Identify triggers: Understanding what triggers your anger can help you control your reactions.
    • Practice relaxation techniques: Deep breathing, meditation, and physical exercise can help calm your mind and reduce stress.
    • Learn to communicate effectively: Expressing your feelings in a calm and assertive manner can help reduce conflict and improve relationships.
    • Get support: Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you identify and address underlying causes of anger.
    • Seek professional help: If you have trouble managing your anger, seek help from a mental health professional.

    In conclusion, anger is a powerful emotion that can have both positive and negative effects on our mental health and relationships. By understanding the causes of anger and learning to manage it in a healthy way, we can improve our well-being and maintain positive relationships with those around us.

  • The Impact of Grief and Loss on Mental Health

    The Impact of Grief and Loss on Mental Health

    Losing someone or something important can be one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or even a job or a home, grief and loss can take a significant toll on our mental health. But the good news is, there are ways to cope with these difficult emotions and take care of yourself during this difficult time.

    First, it’s important to understand that grief and loss are normal and natural responses to loss. It’s okay to feel a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even numbness. It’s also important to remember that there’s no “right” way to grieve and everyone’s experience will be unique.

    One of the most important things you can do to take care of your mental health during this time is to take care of your physical health. This means getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active. Exercise, in particular, can be a powerful tool for managing stress and anxiety.

    It’s also important to reach out to others for support. Talking to a friend, family member, or even a therapist can be incredibly helpful in processing your emotions and gaining perspective. Joining a support group with people who are going through similar experiences can also be beneficial.

    Another helpful tip is to find healthy ways to express your emotions. This might include writing in a journal, creating art, or even writing a letter to the person or thing you’ve lost. It’s also important to give yourself permission to grieve and to not suppress your emotions.

    It’s also important to take care of yourself by maintaining healthy habits such as good sleep hygiene, eating well, and getting regular exercise. It’s also good to find healthy ways to cope with the loss such as mindfulness, meditation, and yoga

    Lastly, it’s important to remember that grief and loss are not something that can be “fixed” or “cured.” It’s a process that takes time, and it’s important to be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate this difficult time. Remember that it’s okay to grieve and to ask for help when you need it.

    In conclusion, grief and loss can take a significant toll on our mental health, but there are ways to cope and take care of ourselves during this difficult time. It’s important to understand that grief is a normal and natural response to loss, to take care of your physical health, reach out for support, find healthy ways to express your emotions, maintain healthy habits and remember that grief is a process that takes time.

  • The Quest for Happiness: A Heartfelt Letter

    The Quest for Happiness: A Heartfelt Letter

    Dear Happiness,

    Remember the times when we were young, wild and free? Those carefree days when we laughed until our stomachs ached, and the world was our playground. I want to take you down memory lane and revisit some of the happiest moments we shared together.

    Do you remember the night when we were both upset about being forced to sleep early for school? When we looked at the night bulb and said “Wow, everyone is asleep but I am still awake.” That moment made us feel like we were unstoppable. Even though we hadn’t done our homework, and we thought we would get in trouble the next day, the teacher didn’t show up. That day will always hold a special place in my heart, and I’ll never forget the joy we felt when we realized we had dodged a bullet.

    The excitement I felt playing with the strange objects I used to keep in a polybag still makes me smile. I could play with those cells, wires, batteries, and magnets for hours without getting tired. It was all thanks to you, and I still have some of those toys to this day.

    When we had to change cities and schools, we faced a lot of challenges, but you were always there with me. We made new friends, had fun and created memories that still make us laugh. And who can forget that night with our cousins, when we all danced together without a care in the world? That was a moment of pure joy, and I feel grateful to have shared it with you.

    College was a rollercoaster of emotions, but we got through it together. We found happiness in movies, computers, games, comics, and novels. And even when life got tough, you never left my side. I’ll always be grateful for the support of my family, friends, and of course, you.

    Do you remember our daily walks in Mumbai, the city that never sleeps? Those journeys on local trains and buses helped shape me into who I am today. I learned to cherish you even more during that time. I didn’t mind sacrificing sleep, or walking miles without getting tired because I was happy. And do you remember the time I met that creepy guy on the bus from Infinity Mall to Andheri Station? Although it was a strange encounter, it still brings a smile to my face.

    I also discovered that sharing you with others is a way to keep you around longer. I started talking to strangers on trains and buses and even gave pep talks to people who were going through tough times. It was a proud moment when I was able to bring positivity into someone’s life, even if it was just for a moment.

    Money may bring comfort and security, but it doesn’t bring happiness. I used to think that once I started earning a good salary, my life would be complete. But I was wrong. The happiness I felt eating a cheap Vada Pav and Limbu-paani can never be replaced by dining at fancy restaurants and eating expensive food.

    In conclusion, I want to say thank you for being there for me throughout the ups and downs of life. You have brought joy and happiness into my life, and I am forever grateful for your existence. I hope this letter takes you down memory lane and reminds you of all the amazing moments we have shared together.

    Yours always,

    Sachin

  • The Dark Side of Emotions: How “Hurt” Sentiments Fuel Injustice and Division

    The Dark Side of Emotions: How “Hurt” Sentiments Fuel Injustice and Division

    As Indians, we often judge people and things based on appearances alone, without fully understanding the situation. Our brains are wired to make quick conclusions. But when it comes to caste or religion, our perceptions can change in a dramatic way. We may suddenly feel compelled to defend our own caste or religion, even if we are not directly involved. This can lead to taking things personally and not being able to let go until the situation subsides.

    Recently, there were incidents in the state of Haryana involving the blocking of roads and railways, aggressive attacks causing damage to public property, theft from ATMs, and the setting of shops and malls on fire, all in response to the “Jat Agitation” demand for reservation. The national media was covering these events extensively.

    I wrote a Facebook post condemning the incidents and the demand for reservation by the Jats, who are known for being royal and rich, but are neither socially nor economically backward. To my surprise, some of my Facebook friends who are Jats started defending and justifying the protests. One of them even called me to ask if I was following a politician who was speaking out against the demand for reservation. I told them that I don’t have to follow anyone to see that what was happening was wrong and to speak out against it.

    What was interesting was that these friends who were defending the riots were not even participating in the protests. Some of them had previously spoken out against the idea of reservation. But now that their caste was demanding reservation, they suddenly had a change of heart.

    There were a few who spoke out against the riots, regardless of their caste, but the majority of people criticized them for bringing shame to their caste, as if the agitators weren’t already doing that. It’s difficult to understand how anyone could justify blocking a road, let alone the more aggressive acts that took place, just to demand reservation for one caste. It causes inconvenience to innocent people who have no part in this reservation controversy.

    Why is it that our caste or religion is more important to us than humanity and the greater good of people? I can’t help but wonder what would happen if people from ISIS or other terrorist organizations were of the same caste as my friends. They would likely cry every time a terrorist was hanged by the law and protest against it, just like they did for the reservation.

    This is why politicians are able to win elections through their dirty politics of caste and religion. It’s our emotional attachment to our caste or religion that is the biggest obstacle to our country’s development. We are the biggest fools in this conspiracy to keep people divided by caste and religion, but one thing is for sure – we won’t change.

  • My Childhood Excuse That Became a Running Joke

    My Childhood Excuse That Became a Running Joke

    Growing up in 2006, my friend Vinesh (or Vinna, as we liked to call him) and I were two young and carefree teenagers who just wanted to enjoy life. Our 12th board exams were fast approaching, and we had to attend Math tuition every day to improve our weakest subject. Our ride was a daily 4 km bicycle journey from our homes to the tuition center.

    Our parents were strict, always reminding us that we had to study hard for the board exams. But for us, being stuck inside with books felt like a prison sentence. So, whenever we could, we would leave home early and return late, just to spend more time outside of the house. We lived in neighboring areas, so our daily commute was always a joint one.

    On the way back home, we would pass by a railway crossing that was often closed to vehicles due to the high frequency of trains on that route. However, being impatient young Indians, we would cross it on our bicycles without any trouble. We would even stop our bikes at the crossing and watch the trains go by, debating on their estimated speeds. Sometimes, we would wait for one or two more trains to pass, just so we could extend our discussions a little longer.

    One day, we got carried away and were so late getting back home that it was already dark. When my parents asked why I was late, I quickly came up with the first excuse that popped into my head: “The railway crossing post was closed for too long. Even between the trains, they didn’t open it. That’s why I am so late.”

    To my surprise, my parents seemed to believe me. The next day, I told Vinna about my clever excuse and how I had managed to avoid trouble. But before I could finish my story, he pointed out the obvious flaw: “We were on bicycles, you idiot. We could have crossed the post even if it had been closed for real. Why would we just wait and watch the trains?”

    I was stunned by my own stupidity and couldn’t believe that my parents hadn’t noticed the flaw in my excuse. Vinna and I laughed and laughed about my foolishness until our stomachs ached. To this day, whenever we talk about that incident, we can’t help but laugh.

    Those really were the days! A time when we were carefree, fearless, and just enjoying the ride. I will always cherish the memories of that time, and the running joke that was born from my childhood excuse.

  • Apology 101: What Not to Do When Owning Up to Your Mistakes

    Apology 101: What Not to Do When Owning Up to Your Mistakes

    Apologizing isn’t always easy, but it’s an important part of being a responsible adult. Unfortunately, some people still don’t know how to do it properly. If you’re guilty of any of these apology faux pas, it’s time to take note and step up your game.

    First things first, never apologize via messaging. Sure, it’s convenient, but it’s also impersonal and can come off as insincere. If you’ve made a mistake, be a grown-up and face the person you’re apologizing to in person.

    Another big no-no is apologizing through a mutual friend. This is just a coward’s way out. When you apologize in person, your expressions and body language can speak louder than words, so don’t hide behind a third party.

    Some people like to give a long explanation before they apologize, but this is a bad idea. If you’re apologizing, it means you know you’ve done something wrong, so just own up to it and say you’re sorry. No need for a long-winded explanation.

    Another mistake people make is apologizing as if it’s a favor. This is just arrogant and sends the message that you don’t really think you did anything wrong. Remember, apologizing doesn’t make you any less of a person.

    Last but not least, don’t be the person who apologizes in the next lifetime. If you’ve made a mistake, don’t wait around to apologize. The longer you wait, the more likely it is that the other person will have moved on and won’t accept your apology.

    In conclusion, apologizing is an essential part of being a responsible adult. It’s important to know how to do it properly, and avoid common mistakes. Remember, if you’ve made a mistake, own up to it and apologize in person with a sincere heart.

  • Finding Innocence in a Cynical World: Why It Matters

    Finding Innocence in a Cynical World: Why It Matters

    I was on my way to a work meeting and had some time to kill, so I decided to stand on the side of the road and people watch. As I was standing there, I couldn’t help but think about all the meetings I’ve had that haven’t gone as well as I’d hoped. I was feeling pretty cynical and not too confident about the meeting I was about to have.

    But then something funny happened. A little girl, probably around 7 or 8 years old, appeared next to me. She looked worried and confused. I ignored her at first, but then she touched my hand and asked if I saw anything. I looked where she was pointing and saw that a bird had pooped on her shoulder. I couldn’t help but laugh, and the little girl looked embarrassed.

    She asked me to clean it off with water from her bottle, which I did. But it didn’t really do the trick. She looked worried again and asked how she was going to clean it. I suggested using a piece of paper, but she said her teacher would get mad if she tore something out of her notebook. So, I looked around and found an empty medicine box and tore off a piece of hard paper from it. I cleaned her shoulder and she thanked me before running off to meet her mom.

    That little interaction made me feel so much better. It was a reminder that even in a cynical world, a little bit of innocence can go a long way. And as a result, I walked into that meeting feeling more in control and positive. And it went really well. So, thanks little girl for reminding me to keep things in perspective.

    It’s easy to get caught up in the cynicism of the world, especially when it comes to work and meeting new people. But sometimes, all it takes is a small moment of innocence to remind us that there’s still good in the world and that we should never lose hope.

    In this case, it was a small schoolgirl who reminded me of this. Her innocence made me realize that I was taking everything too seriously. It was a small moment, but it had a big impact on my day.

    It’s important to remember that these moments of innocence can be found anywhere and at any time. Sometimes, all it takes is a small change in perspective to see them. And when we do, it can completely change our mood and outlook on life.

    So the next time you’re feeling cynical and down, try to find a moment of innocence in your day. It might just be the thing that brings a smile to your face and helps you see the world in a different light. And who knows, it might even make your meeting or your day go a little better.

  • The Truth About Love: 6 Cultural Misconceptions

    The Truth About Love: 6 Cultural Misconceptions

    Love is a beautiful thing, but it can also be complicated. There are many cultural misconceptions about love that can lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment. These misconceptions can come from movies, TV shows, books, and even our own families and friends. It’s important to understand these misconceptions so that you can have a more realistic view of love and relationships.

    1. The Myth of Automatically Finding “The One”

    One of the most common myths about love is the existence of “the one” for everyone. This is a myth that can be harmful to relationships because it creates unrealistic expectations. People often believe that they will immediately know when they meet “the one” who is going to be their soulmate. While it is possible to feel an instant attraction to someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are the right person for you. Attraction is usually just sexual or romantic in nature and choosing a life partner is much more complex than just feeling romantic about someone.

    To truly know if someone is right for you, you need to get to know them on a deeper level. You need to understand their values, goals, and personality. You need to see how they interact with your family and friends. You need to see how they handle difficult situations and if they have the strength of character to go the distance with you.

    In addition, it’s important to understand that nobody is perfect. Even if you find someone who seems to be perfect for you, they will have flaws and imperfections just like everyone else. It’s important to accept and love them for who they are, warts and all.

    2. The Myth of “Meant To Be”

    Another common myth about love is that it is something that brings two people together who are “meant to be” together. This is not true. Love is a mutual decision between two people. It takes a lot of effort and compromise to make it work. The myth of “meant to be” can create the idea that if two people are meant to be together, every problem that arises will be easily resolved. This is not the case in real life. Research shows that 67% of conflicts between couples do not get resolved. Problems need to be addressed and worked through in

    order to make a relationship successful. It’s important to understand that love takes work and it’s not always easy.

    3. The Myth of Immediate Familiarity

    Another myth is that if you feel like you have known someone for a long time, even if you’re meeting them for the first time, they must be the one for you. This is not always the case. Sometimes people just have a lot in common and it can create a sense of familiarity, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they are the one for you. It’s important to take the time to get to know someone before jumping to conclusions about a potential relationship.

    4. The Myth of the Love Story in Movies

    Movies and TV shows often depict love as a fairy tale with a happy ending. They show us a dreamy picture of love that can create unrealistic expectations. In reality, love is not always easy and it’s important to understand that the love stories in movies are not always reflective of real life.

    5. The Myth of Love Being All Butterflies and Rainbows

    Love is a wonderful thing, but it’s not always butterflies and rainbows. There will be tough times and challenges to overcome. It’s important to understand that love takes work and it’s not always easy. But if you’re willing to put in the effort, it can be amazing.

    6. The Myth of Love Should Be Easy

    Love takes work, but it’s worth it. It’s not always easy, but if you’re willing to put in the effort, it can be amazing.

    It’s important to understand that love is a journey, not a destination. Have realistic expectations and understand that love takes work. Everyone’s journey with love is different and unique. Love is a complex and nuanced thing so approach it with an open mind and a willingness to learn and grow.

    Always remember that you are in charge of your own happiness and well-being. You can’t rely on someone else to fulfill all your emotional needs. Have a sense of self-worth and independence.

    You need to understand that not everyone will have the same experience of love or that everyone will have the same definition of love. Everyone is different and it’s important to respect and honor that.

    Having realistic expectations can help you navigate the complexities of relationships and find the love that is right for you.

  • 10 Things Holding You Back From Happiness and How to Let Go

    10 Things Holding You Back From Happiness and How to Let Go

    Are you feeling stuck and unable to find happiness in your life? You might be holding on to things that are preventing you from reaching your full potential. Here are 10 things that might be holding you back from happiness and how to let them go:

    1. Let go of trying to please everyone

    Often times, we find ourselves doing things to please others, whether it’s going along with plans they’ve made for us or living up to their expectations. However, this can be detrimental to our own happiness and well-being. According to a study by the University of California, Berkeley, people who prioritize others’ needs over their own report lower levels of happiness and well-being. It’s important to remember that you deserve to live your life on your own terms and make choices that align with your own values and goals.

    2. Let go of procrastination

    Procrastination can be a major obstacle to achieving our goals and finding happiness. When we put things off, we miss out on opportunities and may end up feeling stressed and overwhelmed. According to a study by the University of London, people who procrastinate have higher levels of stress and lower overall well-being. To combat this, try setting small, attainable goals and taking action towards them immediately. Break large tasks into manageable chunks and create a schedule to stay on track.

    3. Let go of fear and pressure

    Fear and pressure can hold us back from taking risks and trying new things. They can also cause us to feel anxious and stressed. A study by the American Psychological Association found that people who experience high levels of stress have a greater risk of developing chronic health conditions. To overcome this, try practicing mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing and meditation. Additionally, remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes and that failure is a necessary part of growth and learning.

    4. Let go of self-loathing thoughts

    Self-loathing thoughts are negative and harmful to your mental and emotional well-being. These thoughts can make you feel worthless, undeserving of love, and not good enough. However, it’s important to remember that everyone makes mistakes, and no one is perfect. Instead of focusing on your flaws, focus on your strengths and the things that you have accomplished. Surround yourself with positive people who will lift you up and support you. Also, practice self-compassion, which means being kind and understanding towards yourself.

    5. Let go of the past

    Holding onto past experiences can prevent you from moving forward and enjoying the present. The past is gone and can’t be changed, so it’s important to let go of old grudges and regrets. Instead, focus on the present moment and make the most of it. Practice mindfulness and gratitude, which can help you to appreciate the present moment and let go of the past.

    6. Let go of perfectionism

    Perfectionism is the belief that everything must be perfect, and anything less is unacceptable. This mindset can cause a lot of stress and anxiety, and prevent you from enjoying the present moment. Instead, focus on progress and learning from your mistakes. Remember that making mistakes is a natural part of life, and it’s okay to not be perfect.

    7. Let go of holding grudges

    Holding grudges takes up a lot of mental energy and can lead to negative emotions like anger and resentment. Holding grudges can also lead to physical health problems such as increased blood pressure and increased risk of heart disease. Instead, practice forgiveness and let go of grudges. Forgiveness can lead to feelings of peace and happiness.

    8. Let go of comparisons

    Comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Everyone has their own unique journey and it’s important to focus on your own progress and not compare yourself to others. Instead, celebrate your own achievements and be proud of who you are.

    9. Let go of toxic relationships

    Being in a toxic relationship can lead to feelings of unhappiness and low self-worth. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Let go of relationships that bring negativity and drama into your life. It may be difficult, but it will be worth it in the long run.

    10. Let go of negativity

    Negative thoughts and attitudes can lead to feelings of unhappiness and depression. Let go of negative thoughts and focus on the positive things in your life. Surround yourself with positivity and practice gratitude. This will help you to see the good in every situation and lead to a happier life.

    Happiness is a state of mind and it’s important to let go of things that hold us back from achieving it. This allows us to open ourselves up to new opportunities and experiences that will lead to a happier and more fulfilled life. Remember to always put yourself first and trust in your abilities and dreams.