and find you credible.
Dear Authentic Introvert,
Ever felt like people don’t take you as seriously as they should?
You find your suggestions quite sensible and wise, but people just don’t seem to get you.
They just don’t find you credible enough to rely on you or your words.
Here’s why it happens (could be one or more of these reasons):
They don’t think you are competent.
People only listen to people who’ve proved themselves by achieving something or by showing results.
You might say things that sound credible but if you don’t exhibit competence with your actions, people are less likely to listen to you.Your behavior is inconsistent.
One day you are angry with someone and all you do is list their flaws and, on another day, you are suddenly talking about their goodness.
Such behavior makes you lose your trustworthiness.You are unreliable.
Maintaining a track record of dependability contributes to your credibility.
If you are known to not deliver on your words often and keep renegotiating with yourself whether to do something or not, you lose credibility.It’s hard to connect with you.
Building rapport and establishing a genuine connection involves showing empathy and understanding.
It’s possible you feel for them but if it doesn’t reflect in your actions, you can’t grow deeper bonds in general.You have a bad judgment.
A pattern of making sound decisions shows you have a great judgment.
On the other hand, acting confused and seeking others’ opinion on even the smallest decisions makes you seem unreliable.You’re not likeable.
This could be for many reasons. Being mean, talking behind people’s back, making judgmental comments, blaming the world for your problems are some of the ways you could be making it hard for people to like you.
Although I seldom suggest seeking people’s acceptance but if you are generally misunderstood then using people’s feedback for improvement is for your own good.
What’s the one thing that you’ve improved based on feedback?
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