Why insist on being heard

when you can just listen.

Not focusing on being heard makes you a better listener.

People feel more valued and understood around you, which gives you an edge.

Unlike striving to speak your mind, this is not exhausting or stressful.

You feel more at peace and ironically, being a better listener exhibits your inner peace.

When you let go of the need to be heard, you get used to not dumping all the junk in your mind on someone else.

Because this may feel healthy for you but is toxic for the recipient.

On second thought, this is just as toxic for you too, if not more.

Because when you spend too much time narrating your thoughts and experiences to someone, you get addicted to doing so.

And what’s worse is that without realizing, you start sharing your darkest opinions against people who love you, care for you and have been there for you.

This darkness often stems from temporary anger.

But by letting it all out in front of someone else, you create a lasting impression in their subconscious mind of how you are not only ungrateful, but also an evil thinker.

This is certainly not true because it’s based on your reactions to extreme emotions.

This is why journals exist.

It’s a lot better to write all that junk on paper and be mindful of what’s worth sharing even with your closest confidant.

Such things can and will be used against you in future arguments, and you’d regret not being composed.

Being in control of what you share is not a personality trait but a skill that can be learnt with practice and determination.

And it’s worth it for it makes you a much better person.