People are kinder to you

if you are with them.

Kindness is a two-way street.

We often complain that people are not kind anymore but for others, we are also those exact people.

However, we have this inherent tendency to understand our faults better to the point where they don’t seem like faults anymore.

And the lack of kindness is one such thing.

We judge people all the time – without knowing fully where they come from and what they have been through.

We take an idealistic standpoint when we are discussing how someone else must behave in a certain situation.

But when it comes to our own irrational behavior, we believe we are entitled because of the unique challenges and trauma we’ve faced in the past.

We know very well what’s the right thing to do in any situation as long as it’s about someone else.

We have a habit of seeing the good in ourselves and the faults in others.

On that note, let me switch from “we” to “you” because I’m not really talking about myself but other people.

So, kindness is like cleanliness.

If everybody makes sure the street in front of their house stays clean, you will see a clean city.

But if you think that you can keep throwing your garbage on the street

while others continue to clean their part of the street and yours too,

you’re being unreasonable.

If you want people to stop judging you, you need to stop judging even that last single person you think is an exception.

If you want people to be kind to you for no reason, start being kind to people – every single one of them, no matter what.

What goes around comes around.

Nothing that happens to you is unfair.

You had it coming.

You deserve it.

Learn to take responsibility for what happens to you so you can control it.

Otherwise, you can keep complaining and pointing fingers at others, but nothing will change.

Change your mindset and the world will change – at least for you.