How to deal with being too self-conscious

and be more spontaneous.

When you focus too much on how others perceive you, your defenses take over and you start working hard to impress regardless of what you want.

You’d see people changing the way they dress, how they talk and who they spend time with just to be accepted by the people they idolize or seek validation from.

This works okay for some, especially the ones who don’t mind adopting a fake persona.

But if you’re like me, doing so suffocates you and creates a void that you can’t seem to fill.

If you absolutely must impress others, there are two ways:

• You can try to be who they like

• You can try to make them like the real you

I personally don’t choose either because I don’t care for impressions.

And you shouldn’t as well.

Because no matter which one you choose, you’d end up reducing yourself.

And these is one more [BIGGER] reason:

You never know what might impress them.

You can jump through a hundred fire hoops in a row and make them go “wow”.

The next day they see someone jumping head-first into a gutter and go “wowww”.

What would you do?

In fact, the best way is to stay as far away from such people.

Instead of impressing certain kinds of people, it’s better to spend your energy finding the ones who value you exactly – a person who reads smart emails and doesn’t seek validation.

And you find such people by being more like yourself, putting yourself out there in public and letting your admirers join your tribe.

Imagine having an audience who likes every little thing about you.

And then all you have to do is stay authentic.

Shift your focus and your life will shift for good.

A simple life can beat flashiness any given day. Just be like a silly kid!